I was told recently that the sign of a good teacher is someone who takes the blame for everything the students do. (It’s a bad carpenter who blames his tools, right Dad?)
Just thinking about that stresses me out, because it’s SO EASY to blame kids for everything. They’re crazy and don’t know how to behave. They can’t read or add or think. They did a bad job on that test. They don’t care.
Instead, we’re supposed to flip it around. My classroom doesn’t have enough structure and I can’t get them to behave. I haven’t taught them how to read, taught them how to add, or taught them how to think. I didn’t prepare them well enough for that test. I haven’t done well investing them in this class.
I totally get why that’s important, and I know that taking responsibility does wonders for a classroom. I’m pretty sure there’s no exception to this rule and it’s something I’ve been consciously working on this year. Still, it’s exhausting to think that everything will always be my fault.